Well, if you are looking for something unique to give this year you have definitely come to the right place. I am going to give you a few suggestions that will definitely make the receiver’s eyes open up wide this year!

Low Budget Items:

■ Kiss My Cinnabuns – This nipple/lip gloss is great tasting and definitely adds a bit of tingle to the nipple area. Add a little spice to the mistle toe this Christmas.

■ Chocolate Strawberry Body Topping – I absolutely love the way this tastes and if I love it, I know you will too.

■ Wireless, Vibrating, Disposable Couples Ring – No mess, no clean up, just put it on and have fun. When you’re done, just throw it away.

■ I Rub My Duckie – Cute, small and tons of fun in the tub. This toy is discreet so even if left out, no one would think it was anything other than a rubber duckie.

■ Experience Romance Kit – This kit contains items for both men and women and was designed with a full night of pleasure in mind.

Average Budget Items:

■ Elite 7x – One of my personal favorites, this toy is perfect for couples. After all that shopping and wrapping, take sometime out for just the two of you.

■ In the Mood for Love – A very stimulating vibrator and sleeve attachment for him. Enjoy a passionate evening by taking turns wearing the blindfold and performing the acts included on the mindset cards.

■ Senso Lips – I have written about this before but in case you missed it, this is one hell of a male masturbating aid. Soft stretchy material helps you achieve orgasm again and again.

■ Waterproof Jack Rabbit – With three speeds of rotation and three speeds of vibration, add to that it’s WATERPROOF, what more could you ask for?!?!

■ Ho Ho Ho Basket – 10 fun items come in this basket made with nothing but naughty, Christmas spirit in mind. Give the both of you something to rush and open this holiday.

High Budget Items:

■ The Cone – Hands free, high grade silicone toy. I will say two words – 16 & Orgasm! Search through this blog and read about how much I really enjoyed the Cone.

■ Impulse Jack Rabbit – I cannot forget this toy as it was my first real vibrator and one I still use today. The Impulse has 7 different speeds of rotation and 7 different speeds of vibration. My suggestion if you plan on using this, delegate the holiday responsibilities to someone else for the next 24 hours.

■ I Kit – This powerful little vibe comes with an array of accessories. Where the I Vibe came with no attachments, the I Kit comes with five different attachments that provide different sensations to the clitoral area. May I also suggest you use this vibe when having sex with your partner and he is behind you? Trust me when I say you will both enjoy this toy!

■ Televibe – Toys have certainly gone hi-tech these days. Designed for both men and women, this toy is the first interactive computer toy that can be used by one and controlled by another while merely chatting on the internet. And we were spooked by GPS systems when they first came out!

■ Merry Christmas Basket – What can a person do with 17 adult items? Lock yourself, and your partner, in the bedroom from now until New Year’s.

Christmas is almost here so I hope I helped you a little bit with a few unique, gift ideas.

One of my absolute, all-time, favorite toys is the Elite 7x. I stumbled upon this toy completely by accident.

The Elite 7x is the perfect toy for both men and couples. This toy comes with two rings, one that fits around the base of the scrotum and one that fits around the base of the penis. The stretchy material makes for a snug fit that is not at all uncomfortable and stretches with the enlargement of the genital area.

In addition to the comfortable rings, it comes with a vibration attachment at the top of the toy. Now, I dare venture into saying this is my favorite part of the toy because in addition to the amazing vibration, the top of the toy has a little nodule for clitoral stimulation. Needless to say, I and my partner use this toy almost every time and EACH and EVERY time I orgasm.

The Elite 7x comes with a remote that attaches to the vibrating bullet and you can adjust the vibration using seven different speeds. My personal favorite – the last speed which gives you an amazing orgasm that does last for a while (probably close to 30 seconds).

If you are looking for a great toy for your partner, or for the both of you, to enjoy in the bedroom, I so very highly recommend the Elite 7x. You definitely will not be disappointed.

Here are just a few kissable suggestions to make your first kiss one of many to come.

The right moment

We have all been there; it’s the end of a date and one, if not both, of you is wondering who should kiss who first if anyone should kiss at all! Well to make it easier to find out if a kiss will occur here are a few signs: Do you notice a substantial amount of eye contact or is your date standing closer then say a friend would? Did your date feel comfortable putting his/her hand on your arm, shoulder or hand? If you noticed any of these signs then it is a safe bet that your date wants to end the night with a kiss.

If you are having a hard time reading your date and you have no issues with a date ending kiss, then make yourself available for that kiss to happen. Let your date know you had a good time, make constant eye contact, stand a little closer than you normally would with anyone else and most importantly, smile. A smile goes a long way with making a person feel comfortable and when comfort plays a part, the kiss could just be that much better.

The right place

Some people are the PDA types while others aren’t. For those that aren’t the PDA type, holding back a kiss could mean holding back a standing ovation performance. From kissing our brains produce a hormone, oxytocin, that gives us that amazing, out of body, weak in the knees, type feeling. The more we kiss, the more the chemical is produced and the more that chemical is produced, the more we kiss. So if you are in a spot where you feel comfortable to lock lips, regardless of who may be watching, go for it. If you are a little leery of giving others that “standing ovation” performance, then kiss in a car, a private room in your home, someplace away from other’s views so that your bodies can feel free to do what it is your bodies want to do.

Eye contact

Eye contact is so important before, during, and after a kiss. As clichéd as it sounds, the eyes are the window to the soul. Eye contact increases the level of intimacy of any sexual act so if your eyes are welded shut during a kiss, chances are that you could be missing out. Now that doesn’t mean to stare at the person your kissing the entire time but the occasional eye opening could make all the difference. Your eye contact solidifies that special moment between you and your partner.

That special touch

If you kiss is for the first time, a hand on the arm or shoulder will do. To touch any further or anymore animalistic could imply that you may want to go further. If you have been down the kissing path for a while but not any further, then an arm around the waist, a hand on the back of the neck, running fingers through hair is all acceptable. From that point, you know the chemistry is there and instinct will take over.

A kiss is just a kiss and it is if it’s your grandparents kissing you on the cheek, or your parents kissing you on the forehead, or your friends giving you a peck. When it comes to a kiss from your potential or current partner, a kiss means so much more than just a “kiss”.

When I initially came across the Nookii brand I absolutely fell in love with the packaging. To me, what a product is packaged in and just as important as the product itself. So, imagine my surprise when I found out that the product was even better then the packaging it came in!

I am a hard person to surprise and even harder to please at times but this product was great. I was a tad bit apprehensive at first to use the G-Spot toy because of the nodules; I thought they would be rough and hurt but once I got my groove on those nodules add extra stimulation that I was not used to and very pleased with. Ok, excited by is a better phrase!

And I actually got a chance to use the vibrating bunny ring. Although I did not find the vibration up to my standards (I like ZOOM, ZOOM, ZOOM, and VROOM, VROOM, VROOM), I did find it similar to the first couple’s ring I ever tried. It was soft and the ring fit perfectly for my partner (yes every now and then I have one and it’s the same one-I can’t seem to get rid of him).

Now here is where I am challenged at times, I thought the pink blindfold was actually a case for these toys. Imagine how stupid I felt when I screamed, “how the hell do you open this” only to find out that it was actually a blindfold. And may I say it is a very soft blindfold indeed.

The total price you pay for these products (and they even came with “mindset” cards which I thought was adorable) you will not be able to purchase these products separately without paying $50 to $60.

I am really impressed with the Weekend Fun Collection and if you have a partner who enjoys stimulation as much as mine does then this is the perfect gift for the two of you.

Silicone material:
Silicone is really the best material out there for adult toys. It feels the closest skin, it’s smooth and it retains your natural body temperature making your experience warm and realistic. When you run your fingers or hands over silicone made products, you will not feel jagged, rough edges. What you will feel is something similar to your own skin. One of the great things about silicone is that it is virtually hypo-allergenic. Since silicone is a non porous material, bacteria does not get trapped which means you have a substantially lesser chance of incurring an allergic reaction. All you do is wash you toy with warm water and soap and your product is as good as new.

Silicone products are extremely durable and will last you a long time. The only downside to a silicone made product is the price. They cost significantly more then their jelly or rubber counterparts. However, for a product that feels they way it does, is durable and very safe to use, pricing probably won’t matter in the long run.

Jelly material:
Ever see those really bright colored toys on the shelf? If you have, then you most likely seen toys made out of jelly. Jelly material is not quite as smooth as silicone and it is also not quite as expensive. To know if you have had a jelly to in your hands, these types of toys are usually designed using a thick, translucent, and somewhat flexible rubber. If you run your finger over this product, your finger would most likely stick or skid a little over the product. Unlike silicone made products, jelly made products have a slight “plastic type” smell to them. Most people really don’t pay attention to the smell and after a few uses and cleanings, the smell just about disappears.

If you are going to purchase and use a jelly toy then here are a few things to consider:

• You need to use water-based lubricant only and use plenty of it.
• You cannot use soap and water to clean your toy. It is suggested that you use an anti-bacterial toy cleaner.
• You cannot share your toy. Since jelly is more porous then silicone, there is a chance that bacteria can get trapped. So unless you are using a condom it is not recommended that you share.

Jelly toys are fairly inexpensive and do bring tons of pleasure. Therefore, if you want a good product at a good price then give a jelly toy a shot.

Rubber material:
Latex rubber is the most common material adult toys are made from. Rubber toys are soft and basically flexible. They are more firm then their silicone or jelly relatives. Rubber products feel absolutely nothing like the real thing. Since this material is extremely porous, it is very hard to clean so sharing is a no-no unless you are using a condom. Some people are allergic to latex so it is important to know if you are as well before making your purchase. Rubber toys do have a distinct smell to them – without a doubt you will know that you are holding a rubber dildo just because of the smell. Flesh, tan and black colors are by far the most popular colors for these types of toys.

If you are looking for a very inexpensive product that does the job, then a rubber toy is for you. It doesn’t last very long but with the low cost, you could purchase a new toy without burning a hole in your wallet.

Plastic Material:
Plastic is hard, cold and does not move yet some people really enjoy toys made out of this material. Plastic toys usually come in silver or gold, metallic casing and have a motor inside the product. Although not the type of product you want to use for regular insertion (it doesn’t bend, it doesn’t conform to your body temperature), this type of product is perfect for clitoral stimulation.

It is suggested that when you clean this toy, you wipe the toy down with rubbing alcohol followed by wiping it down with warm water.

A plastic toy is perfect for the person who wants a cool, hard product with strong vibration.

There are other varieties of materials out there for you to choose from if none of the aforementioned appeal to you. Here is a brief list:

• Glass: Completely safe and completely hypo-allergenic. This type of material is usually used for glass dildos and butt plugs. Glass toys are expensive.
• Cyberskin™: This is a thermal plastic which becomes warm with use. Silicone is a very lifelike material however, Cyberskin is like skin on skin and the price reflects as such.
• Metal: We would not suggest metal toys but those in the S&M lifestyle enjoy these types of toys.

I love Sue Johanson; I love her show “Talk Sue” and I definitely love her product line. One of my favorites is the Royal Wave.

This has to be one of the most awesome G-Spot stimulators I have used. “Why”, you ask? It’s very simple – it’s due to the unique curving of the toy. I enjoy the fact that not only is this toy waterproof (oh I have had plenty of fun in the shower) but it is a multi speed vibrator which allows you to adjust the speed on the dial to whatever brings you the most pleasure.

Add to that, the Royal Wave is silicone which means it’s hypoallergenic. Since this is one of the rare toys that doesn’t have “pores”, it will not hold bacteria like some others out there. You can easily clean it with warm water and soap, dry it off and put it away with no worries. Oh and did I mention that it’s WATERPROOF?

And before I forget, if you want to be a bit daring you can use the Royal Wave not only for G-Spot stimulation but for clitoral stimulation as well. Hey, a girl needs to get her worth out of her product!

So, if you are looking for a product that is multi-function and multi-speed, and comes in a pretty pink color, and offers great pleasure then I highly recommend picking up this toy and adding it to your toy chest.

Why do women fake orgasms? For a number of reasons, most of which have to do with a woman’s inherent reluctance to hurt her man’s feelings. This desire to respond in a way that her partner expects her to—by having an orgasm—is referred to as response anxiety, the equivalent of the male performance anxiety.

“When a guy is not doing me right, I can’t just tell him to quit or to change his moves. Instead, I usually just fake it, to get it over with. It’s just easier than having to explain him how to do it the way I want, and, having to teach him would take the fun out of it anyway,” says Alison, 27.

A majority of women have difficulty verbalizing their sexual desires, and instead choose to fake enjoyment rather than show their men how they prefer to be pleased.

“I just don’t know how to explain it to him— ‘Move your tongue slower, focus on my clitoris’— it just seems weird having to give the guy directions,” says Marie, 33.

Some women are afraid they are taking too long to reach an orgasm so they decide to fake it rather than burden their partner. Yet others are too preoccupied with how they look, smell, or sound to fully abandon themselves to pursuit of pleasure.

This kind of mental self-scrutiny during sex is called “spectatoring” and is one of the main reasons why women can’t achieve a genuine orgasm and end up faking one. They may be worrying about their messy hair, their sweaty body or smeared make-up, the shape of their breasts, or the smell of their genitals—all of which detracts from their sexual arousal.

And all of which is totally unnecessary, since when a man is fully engaged in sexual intercourse, he cares nothing about such details. Instinctively understanding that intercourse will proceed until he climaxes, he is engrossed in his pleasure, which is enhanced by the feel of your body on his, by your passion and excitement, and by the sense that you are sharing his enjoyment. When a man is going down on you, it is because he gets turned on by bringing you pleasure. In either case, most men get turned on by sexually assertive and vocal women – and the guys that do not are often selfish misogynists not worth your time! Indeed, most male “performance anxiety” stems from their uncertainty over their ability to pleasure their partners, so you are doing him a big favor by telling or showing him how you like it. So stop feeling shy, timid, embarrassed or afraid to hurt his ego – just tell him exactly where and how you want to be touched!

If you are a woman who feels uncomfortable with instructing her man how to pleasure her, don’t hesitate to get out your favorite toys to help him get there. Many women who feel too anxious to orgasm from his oral or manual stimulation in the beginning phase of a relationship are able to easily climax with the assistance of a vibrator, such as a pocket rocket. Let him bring you off with your rocket, or help yourself to climax with your hands, and he will get the picture—and he will gratefully proceed to intercourse with the sure knowledge that you have also enjoyed carnal bliss. Similarly, if you are uneasy telling your man that he needs to last a little longer, you might want to bring along a vibrating penis ring, which is likely to extend the duration and enjoyment of the intercourse for both of you.

As a woman becomes more comfortable with her relationship, she is more likely to relax, enjoy herself, and become more vocal with her man. No wonder the majority of women report not experiencing orgasms during one-night stands. They need the comfort and trust of an intimate relationship to let go of self-evaluation, of worry about what their partners are thinking, and to claim the selfish pleasure of climax. That is also why it is paramount for a man to exhibit patience and express his enjoyment of performing oral sex on his woman, or having intercourse for as long as it takes her to orgasm. A good lover knows this—and he wants you to help him achieve this goal.

Remember that communication is the heart of any good relationship; and sex is no exception to this rule. Men are not trained as sexual athletes, nor do they have any instinctive knowledge as to how to please every woman. In the beginning of any sexual relationship, they are looking for, and hoping for, the clues that will help them bring you to satisfaction. The more verbal and physical clues you give him, the better he will get and the happier he will be. So take the initiative to show him how you like to be pleasured; and he’ll thank you for not making him guess!

However, in a recent study conducted by Jon Maner, an assistant professor of psychology at FSU, he has shown how “strongly, quickly and automatically” we tend to look at those who we find to be extremely attractive and how we find it difficult to take our eyes off of those types of people. When tested, women paid just as much attention to those very attractive men as the men did to very attractive women. To add to this, men who were deemed jealous paid much more attention to very attractive men. This is not to say that women did not focus in on very attractive women but the amount of time they kept their gaze on the same sex was less then that of the men.

The reason that women stared at women and men stared at men was that when it came down to it, people are inherently jealous. When it comes to infidelity, those we deem to be most attractive are the ones who we can visualize our partner having a romantic encounter with. In seeing someone who is genetically gifted in the “looks” department, not only can we visualize our partner being with that person, we also think about our own “imperfections” which rears our insecurities.

Our own insecurities lead to opening the door to jealousy and quite honestly, it shows that we are human to some extent. Anyone who says they aren’t the “jealous type” is, in my opinion, not being honest with the person they are saying this to nor themselves. In a day in age where it seems as if being perfectly beautiful is the be all and end all of life, it is no wonder men and women have a stigma surrounding their own “beauty”. When in actuality, everyone is beautiful one way or the other.

We were not made equal. Some people are more intelligent while others are more athletic. By the same token, a person can be visually beautiful and yet have the most horrendous personality imaginable making them, in the end, really not so beautiful. And a person who some may consider average looking may be the kindest, most spontaneous, loving and comedic person one will ever meet which, by far, outweighs the visual beauty.

In the end, how you feel about yourself is what counts. I’m no Jessica Alba or Catherine Zeta Jones (two women I find very beautiful). I could stand to lose a few and I would love to be more knowledgeable about certain topics but at the end of the day, I am very happy with who I am and how I look. I would much rather be remembered for how I treated others and the mark I made on this world then how beautiful I once was. If more people adopted that attitude rather then worrying about Botox, Collagen or Liposuction with regards to how “others” will view them, a definite change would occur both within and within society as a whole.

All in all, the next time you see someone incredibly attractive don’t feel like you’re alone in your longing gaze because chances are where you’re looking so is just about everyone else.

Women can’t have all the fun all of the time now can we? It’s only fair that I do a review for toys for men as well.

Not being a man, I had to solicit feedback on this product, Toys for Boys, from a friend of mine. My friend told me he has used lots of products for stimulation and masturbation, but this was one of the best products he has ever used. Add to that, the amount of products you receive in this collection is by far the best dollar for dollar.

He had started off with the sleeve, Bomber, and stated that most other sleeves, although comfortable, felt as if they would tear apart at any moment. This sleeve was not only comfortable and stretched to fit, but was “sturdy” as well. Meaning that at Mach 1 speed it would hold up (hey, those were his words not mine!).

The next product he used from the Toys for Boys collection was the Ringo. He said he used this with his wife and stimulation for both of them was great. The ring fit snuggly but not too tight and the vibration was subtle enough to bring pleasure to both of them. He had also tried the ring alone and said the vibration was wonderful and helped him accomplish his goal. Oh the things men say – I had to chuckle!

The Tickler, nodular sleeve, his wife enjoyed immensely. By sliding it over part of his penis and then rubbing it against his wife’s clit, labia and in the vaginal area, he gave his wife “deserving pleasure”. They also found the playing (instruction) cards to be quite fun – and useful. As my friend’s wife stated, “It has been a long time since we did any spicing up of our love life and the toys and cards reminded them of what they were missing”.

After their feedback on the Toys for Boys collection, I had to no other choice but to add it to the review section. For the price and amount of products you receive in this collection, it is a sure winner in bringing both you, and your partner, the fun you (both) deserve.

When we added the I Rub My Duckie vibrating toy to our adult toy arsenal I was completely excited. This toy is absolutely adorable and it gave me a reason to turn off the shower and run a bath. Keep in mind that I never had a rubber ducky growing up so this was new “toy” territory for me.

Look at the happy face on the “I Rub My Duckie”. Doesn’t it just make you smile and want to be mischievous?

This toy packs a powerful, vibrating punch unlike most small vibrators I have used. And, unlike some vibrators I have used, this one is incredibly quiet – even under water. Yes, it is waterproof so feel free to take it in the bath, pool or Jacuzzi and have a ton of fun.

Use the beak, head or tail as vibration points and then sit back and enjoy the pleasure you will derive from this toy. I emphatically love the I Rub My Duckie and it is now a fixture in my shower.

If you are looking to revisit the fun times you used to have as a kid with a new found adult appreciation, then I highly suggest adding this toy to your collection.

I was rummaging through one of my drawers over the weekend when I came across my pyramid shaped pink box. I thought “I haven’t used this in a while”, and rightfully so. I have just been a tad busy. Bad me!

What was in this pink box you’re wondering? It was the Cone. The last time I used this was when I received it in December of 2006 to test. WOW it had been a long time and I forgot just how much fun this toy was.

For those of you who don’t know about this toy let me give you a little insight.

First of all, the design is completely inconspicuous. You can literally leave it out on a table and have people over and unless they have one themselves, or have read about it, no one would ever know that the Cone is actually an adult toy that delivers amazing vibration/stimulation.

Secondly, this toy has 16 different functions. The last button on this toy delivers the big ORGASM (which is one of my favorites). However, I love to press the button on the Cone and vibrate through the different speeds and stimulations this product offers. Call it the build up to the big “O”.

Third, and one of the best features about this toy, is that it is COMPLETELY hands free – well except when you want to move it around. I have sat on my couch while watching a movie (we won’t talk about what type) and all I had to do was place it between my legs and let the Cone do the work. If you have a partner to fool around with, then it will definitely bring pleasure to the both of you.

I’m glad I found my long lost friend; it has brought me several days (and a few nights) of much needed, and wanted, pleasure. I give this toy, the Cone, five, naughty BadFun devils.

The results of the survey showed that: “The most prevalent sexual problems among women were low desire (43%), difficulty with vaginal lubrication (39%), and inability to climax (34%). Among men, the most prevalent sexual problems were erectile difficulties (37%). Fourteen percent of all men reported using medication or supplements to improve sexual function. Men and women who rated their health as being poor were less likely to be sexually active and, among respondents who were sexually active, were more likely to report sexual problems. A total of 38% of men and 22% of women reported having discussed sex with a physician since the age of 50 years.”

Because so little has been known about the sexual habits of this population, little has been done to address their specific needs. As part of our collaboration with Dr. Victoria Zdrok, we will be developing resources specifically for seniors who are looking to maintain a healthy and active sex life.

Our guide will contain information that will address the most prevalent problems that were raised in the study as well as some information that seniors can use to ensure more productive conversations with health care professionals when addressing issues of sexuality. Continue to check back with us at BadFun.com for more information.

The controls are on the base of this vibrator, as opposed to the old wire connected to a controller with dials. The placement of the controls as well as their new push button design make it easier to switch speeds and functions. This vibrator is also slightly quieter, which is always nice. And in my opinion the pink color is much cuter than the original.

The Waterproof Jack Rabbit is one of our best sellers. It is often the first to go at BadFun Home Parties because women have heard how great it is.

Aside from being a sensory organ, noses can also be used as an aid in sexual stimulation. A well-known erotic use of the nose is the “Eskimo Kiss.” To practice the Eskimo Kiss, gently rub your noses together with your faces less than a breath apart. Although this practice probably originated in India around 1500 B.C. where ancient writings describe the custom of rubbing noses together, it is called “Eskimo kissing” because it was widely practiced by the Inuit. This form of contact may have been a precursor to lip kissing as it is also practiced by the animals. The less well-known uses for the nose include using it to rub your partner’s nipples while licking her breasts, and to rub her clitoris while tonguing her vagina. Indeed, since the nose is a soft, flexible organ, it can be used to gently stimulate any erogenous zone on your partner’s body. In the Tantric teachings the tip of the nose is considered to be on the meridian which connects to the Root Chakra, a sexual energy center which resides at the base of the spine, near the anus. Touching the nose sends energy flowing through that meridian.

Besides being an important sensory organ, the ears are also very sensitive to touch. Kisses on the ears, especially in back of the ears, or a light tracing of the ear’s folds with a finger or tongue tip are good ways to stimulate your partner. Nibbling on the ear lobes or lightly blowing into the ear is also enjoyable. Some lovers enjoy even prolonged tonguing of the ear and find it very arousing; but all lovers—both men and women—enjoy having their ears kissed and fondled during sex. Some people enjoy more intense stimulation of their ears, such as gentle biting and pulling on pierced earrings. Indeed, earrings have always had erotic symbolism and this is one of the reasons for the popularity of pierced ears. Long, dangling earrings, the kind that brush a woman’s shoulders when she turns her head, can maintain her sexual excitement by the constant pull on her earlobes and the frequent brushes of the earrings on her neck and shoulders.

Instead, allow yourself to feel your shared presence and to relish your temporary physical merger by activating all of your senses. Pay attention to skin and hair textures; savor the smell and taste of the various body parts of your lover; and note your partner’s responses to your touch. This close attention to what you are experiencing is called mindfulness, a practice of moment-to-moment awareness adopted from Buddhism. Being mindful means to participate fully in life, to immerse oneself in a certain activity without allowing your mind to wander or get distracted. You need to put yourself in a sexual state of mind in order to quiet down your cognitive brain, which is governed by the busy-bee beta waves. Instead, you need to trigger your affective brain, which is dominated by the slower alpha waves; these make you feel simultaneously relaxed and energized.

The Introducer has a single opening which causes the suction to be slightly stronger and the airflow is not as intense. This means more suction and less vibration. It will result in a longer orgasm due to the reduced airflow. The Introducer should be used initially to prolong the build up of the orgasm. Some women have experienced a single orgasm lasting more than a minute.

The Seducer offers less suction more vibration. With the increased airflow, the clitoris is caught up in an intense air current and it vibrates at a very rapid speed causing a much quicker buildup.

This sex toy will give new meaning to the phrase domestic bliss!

Vortex Vibrations

When we think about men and orgasms we know that usually, when they do it, it’s done. Yes, there are some who can become erect again rather quickly and those that can go for hours before ejaculating but what do we really know about the male orgasm? We assume that ejaculation and orgasm are one in the same for men. They aren’t. Orgasm precedes ejaculation and if you can learn to make a distinction between the two when feeling them, you can learn to control them.

The process of preparing yourself to achieve multiple orgasms begins with the PC muscle, or pelvic floor muscle. Strengthening this muscle is the key to controlling your orgasm and ejaculation.

1. PC Muscle – To locate the PC muscle, while urinating, attempt to stop the flow midstream. By doing this, you will voluntarily be constricting your PC muscle. If you repeat this a few times you will actually feel the muscle tighten. The act of constricting and releasing the PC muscle is commonly referred to as a Kegel exercise.

2. Exercises – To strengthen any muscle you have to work it out. The PC muscle is no different. The good thing about kegel exercises is you can do them anywhere, anytime. Simply clench and hold the muscle at for varying intervals.

3. Practice – During masturbation you can test out your newly buff PC by attempting to prevent ejaculation. Start by masturbating as you would normally, however, concentrate on your breathing while doing so. Pay attention to your range of emotions and the state of being aroused as you stroke yourself. When you feel you are about to reach the “point of no return” (ejaculation) stop all stimulation and contract and hold the PC muscle for a count of ten.
a. If you were able to do this without ejaculation or with very little semen expulsion you will still feel aroused as opposed to how you would feel if you had ejaculated. You can resume stimulation and this time wait until you are even closer to the point of no return before contracting your PC.
b. If you were unable to stop the flow of ejaculation, don’t worry, it can take time to perfect. Continue to do this exercise at different times when you can focus on your body and your awareness of your sensations.

4. Results – Learning to control ejaculation can not only benefit you, in that it can lead to multiple orgasms with increased intensity, but it can also make sex that much more enjoyable for your lover. Being able to prolong ejaculation frees you to take your time and focus on pleasing your partner. Your orgasms can create a heightened state of arousal in your lover, and by being able to orgasm over and over without losing your erection you will give them ample opportunity to multiply their orgasms!

What can we do to save ourselves? The world of love and lust has created the best cure we can offer-the Rebound Relationship. It seems like a simple solution towards picking up the pieces of our shattered egos, but even simple solutions have confusing complexities.

How do you make a rebound relationship work for you? We all know that they can falter at the drop of a hat, the criticism of a habit, or the memory of a past loved one. Take the time to remember your own rebound failures and successes while you read and absorb this Rebound Checklist.

1. Try your hardest to find someone that understands your situation- Your rebound partner doesn’t have to be rebounding himself/herself, but it’ll help the both of your tolerance levels if they too know that breaking up is hard to do and rebounding is even harder. Perhaps they are just looking for something simple in a relationship, too.

2. Communicate what you want- If healing can only be found in your exact opposite, let them know where you are coming from. Sometimes the most exciting situations can indeed come from something that is deliciously wrong, as long as you both know your objectives.

3. Try to avoid acting out your pent-up aggressions- Your new partner has no idea what you went through in your past relationship, no matter how much you might explain to them. Use restraint when feeling the impulse to mirror this partnership with your last. These are two different people and they should be treated as such.

4. Try to avoid discussions about the past- No matter how sympathetic your new partner wants to be about your grief or frustration, making every conversation about the past will just push people away in the future. True growth happens when you can understand the past and from that, change your future.

Some people need that time to stew over their thoughts after a broken relationship. If you are the kind of person that needs to get out there and start again as soon as possible, just make sure it’s on your terms. A rebound relationship can be perfect if you’ve done enough soul searching to know exactly how you need to atone.

At first it can look intimidating, but relax and take it slow. I got myself in the mood with a long bubble bath and a glass of red wine. After lubricating the Royal G I placed the vibrating tip against my clitoris and was surprised at how smooth and relaxing the movement was. Powerful, yet not overdone, this vibrator wasn’t going to shake me off the bed. I then inserted the tip, curved part facing away from me. The G-spot is hard to reach because it is in a curved area where most penises cannot go. I didn’t want to overwhelm myself so I took it slow but I was already enjoying myself immensely and getting very heated with anticipation. It was difficult to keep the slow pace. I continued to insert the vibe little by little, teasing myself unmercifully. Once the 7” shaft was fully submerged, I could feel the curved tip in an area I had never experienced before. As it continued to vibrate, I was getting more and more excited and shocked that I wasn’t stimulating my clitoris at all, yet I could feel how close I was to orgasm. Needless to say, I reached my climax and doubled my pleasure.

I recommend Sue Johanson’s Royal G to those women who feel restricted by their limited orgasm inducing methods. Now that I can experience the G spot orgasm, I can find new ways of getting to it, alone or with my partner.
Bonus: It’s waterproof!

Leave Notes
When life takes over and work and family obligations pile up, spending time with a lover is often the first thing to get pushed to the bottom of your to-do list. Leaving a note to let your sweetheart know that you’re thinking about them is a quick and easy way to make sure that you maintain an open line of communication when you’re short on time. Something as simple as saying Have a good day! or I can’t wait to see you tonight! is an unexpected find that will not only brighten their day but remind them that you love them.

Sexy Striptease
For example, getting ready for bed doesn’t have to follow the same routine night after night. Take a few extra minutes to surprise your lover with a sexy strip tease when you undress for the day. Even though you may be too tired to engage in a passion fest, your sexy dance will make your lover feel desired and will let the anticipation build for another time.

Lingerie Fashion Show
By the same token, you can give your sweetie a lingerie fashion show. Try a different outfit on each night while doing a little runway walk or a sexy dance. Having your honey admire your body is certainly a boost to the ego and it is sure to turn him on.

Sensual Massage
A sensual or erotic massage is often overlooked as a way to get in the mood or to connect with a lover. A sensual massage, like a regular massage, helps relieve stress and relax the body to a more content state of mind. It lets the mind and body slow down and escape a hurried world. I suggest taking 5 – 10 minutes before you fall asleep taking turns massaging each other. It will give you a chance to spend some quiet time with each other and it’s also a fun way to help your partner relieve some stress.

1. Try indoor rock climbing
2. Spend an afternoon at a museum
3. Catch a comedy show
4. Ride amusement park rides
5. Visit the Zoo
6. Ice skating
7. Attend a sporting event
8. Hit a concert
9. Meet for happy hour
10. Take a class together: dancing, cooking, etc.
11. Go bowling
12. Play a game of paintball
13. Take up a sport together: tennis anyone?
14. Horseback riding
15. Get a couple’s massage
16. Spend the night in a hotel
17. Wine tasting
18. See how sea creatures live at an aquarium
19. Take a hike!
20. Go to the park
21. Go off-road with quads
22. Take surfing lessons or skiing lessons: together or from each other.
23. Get on a boat
24. Camping
25. Take a mini-vaca to a nearby city

You’ve made it through our list. Now, go ahead get out of here!

1. Be Pro-active – Sometimes it’s necessary to come right out and ask for what you want. Waiting for someone to “get the hint” is just going to build resentment within you that will eventually come out later in the form of anger. The first step in communicating is actually talking to the other person. Tell them how you feel, what it is that you want or need, and how they can go about fulfilling your needs.
2. Listen – Maybe he doesn’t talk as much as you and you tend to dominate most conversations. Try to listen and ask questions when he does talk about something instead of launching into a story of your own. Really listening to another person and asking questions pertinent to their story will encourage them to do it more often.
3. Arguing – Though arguing is unavoidable and often good for a relationship as people are different and will disagree at times, if you are arguing all the time, examine the reasons why. Is it the same issue? Instead of arguing, try to get your point across in a positive way. Moving straight to anger puts him/her on the defensive. Remember, its not about winning or losing its about compromise and if you feel that your relationship is worth it.
4. Time Out – If things are getting too heated during an argument or you seem to be fighting in a circle, take a time out. Go to separate areas and try to clear your head. Sometimes we get so angry in the heat of the moment only to later wonder why we were so mad. Taking a breather can take some of the edge off a battle over something that may not be all that important to either of you.
5. Write it down – If you are angry or hurt and want to be sure to get out everything you want to say to the other person, try writing it down first. Write down everything you want to say to that person and include how you feel. When you take the time to put words on paper you think more about what you are trying to convey and choose your words more carefully. You may find that simply writing it all down has enabled you to vent and you no longer feel so hurt or angry. You still want to discuss the issue but you are in a better state of mind to do so and more likely to resolve the issue without the drama.
6. Self-awareness – Be aware of your own patterns of behavior. If you feel like you are starting to get upset or take something personally, try to breathe through it and think about why it is so upsetting. Most often it’s how we perceive what others do that causes us to feel angry or upset. Why do certain things upset us? Is it because of issues in the present or in the past? Becoming more attuned to yourself will aid you in cultivating positive relationships with others.
7. Avoid – Try not to belittle, blow off or throw insults. These are hurtful things done in anger and can create more problems than the one at hand. You may solve this issue but later your partner will think, “Did he/she really mean that or was he just angry?” or “I can’t believe he could say he loves me and say such things to me.” Make an attempt to understand and accept where the other person is coming from. There are two people in the relationship and both of your feelings are equally important. Blowing off the other’s concerns will only cause new ones to sprout.

Want to feel sexier and really wow your lover? Learn to do the following:

1. Body Conscious - Instead of picking and pointing out flaws, focus on your good parts such as your nice legs, round butt, or soft skin. If you feel embarrassed or inadequate when you are naked your lover picks up on that and it can make them nervous. You need to learn to accept your body and be proud of it before you can share it with someone else.
2. Feel Sexy – Get yourself some pretty lingerie that flatters your figure. Wear it under your clothes or around the house and catch yourself in the mirror. If you feel sexy, someone else will most likely agree with you.
3. Know What Turns You On – Another part of the self-awareness factor is knowing your body well enough to know what you like and what really turns you on. Pleasuring yourself is a great way to understand your body. If you aren’t sure what you like, or if you will like something, find out. You can’t expect your lover to know because what works for one person may not for another.
4. Express Yourself - Don’t be bashful about telling your partner what it is you want them to do. Tell them where to put their hands and what positions you like. Just talking about it will make them hot and you’ll know you are getting exactly what you need from each experience.
5. Enjoy Yourself – Letting go and getting totally into it comes as a result of the first 4 tips. When you are pleasing your lover and they moan in pleasure and beg for more you know that they are having a good time. It turns you on. By the same token, if you are really enjoying yourself, let them know. It not only encourages them to continue pleasing you, it also gets them even more aroused.
6. Pamper Yourself – It’s not necessarily vein to primp. By getting a manicure/pedicure or your hair done, you not only make the outside package more attractive but you feel better emotionally. Even just putting on a little make-up can make you feel more confident.
7. Exercise – In order to feel comfortable with your body you may need to do a little work on it. Create a better body image by incorporating exercise into your week. Even a brisk walk can make you feel energized and refreshed. You’ll feel better physically and mentally, while gaining that much more confidence in yourself.

And don’t worry if you are using the right sexual techniques—the subject of human sexual behavior, even in its most academic form, is an inexact science, devoid of formulaic approaches. In its practice, it is a free-form art, fueled by the Muse of Desire. Imagine your passion being transformed into a warm, electric energy source in which you are bathing your partner!”

Try something different this year. In addition to the things they are expecting, give them a little something extra. Something unpredictable, unique and most of all, meaningful. Here are some ideas to get your creative juices flowing:

1. Instead of waiting for that night, meet them for lunch or have their favorite meal delivered to their office.
2. If you bought them a nice gift, don’t just give it to them over dinner; make ‘em work for it. Create a scavenger hunt in your house with sweet notes leading them all over and eventually to their gift.
3. Take a trip down memory lane and spend the night remembering when. Take turns telling your favorite memories together. Especially, the steamy ones!
4. If your partner loves the theatre or sports and you never go with them b/c you hate it, surprise them with tickets for the two of you. You’re making a sacrifice in the name of love.
5. Give routine sex a break; make it different by starting with a game of cards. Play for clothes or favors. Don’t rush right through it but take the time to lavish their body with attention. Make it fun and romantic!
6. Forget the teddy bear and get them a gift basket full of sensual products. You can fill it with stuff you can use together as well as separately. Or better yet, get a unique Valentine’s Day Gift Basket from BadFun. Choose from three different V-Day Baskets and find the one that will make it the V-Day that goes down in history.
7. Get regular balloons instead of helium and put little notes in some of them. Have your sweetie pop them to find the special notes. If you bought something small you can also put that in the balloon before blowing it up.
8. If you want the world to know your feelings, or at least the neighbors, try these grand gestures: cut out big letters and stick them to the garage door or in your window, write it in snow or on the grass with colored spray paint, leave it on their car while their at work (please use washable materials!), or spell it out with candy like Hershey kisses!
9. It’s not all about you ladies. Even though most men assume that they will be the ones giving the gifts and making the plans, it would be nice to show them how much you love them as well. Maybe they don’t like the same things you do but if you try your best and give them something thoughtful they will appreciate it. In addition to sexy lingerie, get a sensual gift basket for him and make the night hotter than he could ever have imagined.
10. If you’re gonna go with chocolate try putting a twist on the ordinary box of chocolates. Get Chocolate Body Topping and take turns tasting each other’s body, oh and the chocolate too, of course.

Buying a sex toy is similar to buying a car. You need to make a list of the features you want, what you will be using it for, and how much you are willing to spend. Sometime toy descriptions can be vague and you’re left wondering where to even put it let alone what it’s for. It may take some trial and error but eventually you will find what you are looking for and even some great products you weren’t looking for. Follow these simple guidelines and enter the world of adult toys with less trepidation.

1. First decide what you want to use if for. Is it for masturbation, for you and your partner or both? Dividing it into these categories will help you find the best products for each such as a vibrator, dildo, or erection ring.
2. Are you stimulated clitorally, Vaginally, Anally or a combination. Many toys stimulate more than one area at a time so you can get two or three products all rolled into one. The Jack Rabbit has the bunny ears to stimulate you clitorally as well as a vibrating shaft for penetration. Some erection rings like the Couples Love Ring include mini vibrators that stimulate both you and your partner.
3. Vibrations can be tricky because some people love super high powered vibes while others require a softer hum. The solution is to get a vibe that has multiple vibe settings. This way you can start on low and gradually increase the level of vibrations if necessary. The Bullet is a tiny little vibe that you can use for clitoral stimulation and has a multi-speed setting that starts how moderate but can adjust to exceed the vibration of some much larger vibes!
4. If you want to know more about a product, read the reviews. Many sites will include customer reviews on the product page. You can also do a specific product review search or post on a message board for help.
5. Make sure you purchase toy cleaner and lube. In order to reuse your toys you need to keep them clean and bacteria free. Most toys are made with soft smooth martial but using lube will make it that much more pleasurable.
6. Just because a toy is super expensive does not mean it is the best ever. Some toys are worth every penny even if it cost a pretty penny. However, price is not always commensurate with quality. Make sure what you are buying is what you really want.
7. Another thing about sex toys is that they can be super realistic in appearance or just plain comical. You can have a 7 inch penis with the coloring, veins and ridges of a real penis or you can have a fruit shaped shaft. Toys come in bright colors, funny shapes, with lots of bells and whistles such as glow in the dark and flashing light features. If you think it might be fun, go for it.
8. Keep in mind that sometimes it can be the simplest, unassuming in appearance toys that will bring you the greatest satisfaction. The Cone is a good example of this because it looks in all honesty, like a contemporary home décor item. Or possible a newfangled plunger. However, this toy has created such a stir because its fun and it definitely delivers. Other products that appear plain but pack a whollop of pleasure are the Ideal Massager and the aptly named G-Spot Vibe.
9. Might you want to take your toy to wetlands? Uh, yeah, we meant the shower or bath. Waterproof toys are spectacular inventions. You’d be surprised at how much more relaxing a bath can be with an underwater creature such as the Talk Sue Royal Swirl and the Waterproof Jack Rabbit.
10. If you want to bring your new buddy along you might find that he’s a little cumbersome or his batter charger wont fit in your overnight bag. Travel vibes come in all forms these days and appear very discreet in case of nosy security check guards. The Travel Pleaser, the Mini Tongue and the Compact Water Pro, which is waterproof and portable (bonus), will all fit snugly into your bag or even your purse!

We decided to make a list of some basic fantasies that you may have thought of yourself or your partner may be thinking about. Take a look and see if any get you warm.

1. Role Playing – He’s a special ops soldier on a mission to protect you from some crazed killer. You’re an independent woman adverse to anyone trying to tell you what to do. And Action! Discuss with your partner some scenarios that you have envisioned in the past that you can act out in your house, or even start it at work or at a bar. He may have some good ideas too, that will end up in some super charged naughty play.
2. Exhibitionism – Well you don’t need to go running around the streets flashing old ladies and children. We are talking about having sex outside the bedroom. Having sex in places you may get caught can be very exciting. In a tent at the beach or in the woods, in the car, a restaurant bathroom, or empty movie theater. You don’t even have to have sex. You can use these places as foreplay for heavy petting and fondling, or even just some oral action. Warning: Don’t get so carried away the authorities are called and don’t do it where there are children.
3. Light Bondage – So you aren’t into black patent leather chaps, dog collars, or pain. You may get turned on by being blindfolded or tied up with scarves. In these scenarios you are surrendering yourself to your partner’s desires and demands. You can tie him up to a chair and tease him mercilessly by dancing if front of him naked and brushing your body against his, but he can’t touch you. Sometimes giving up control or gaining all the power can be just what you need for the perfect release. Try the Sexy Slave Kit, everything is soft including the Pleasure Feather and none of the items are intimidating.
4. Dirty Talk – If you aren’t very vocal other than the occasional “Yeah baby” and the finishing number, you may want to introduce some sexy words. Dirty talk doesn’t necessarily have to be raunchy or nasty and it can really turn you on. Saying things like, “That is so hot when you do that” gives encouragement to your partner. It can also make them even hotter. If you’re having sex on top and your boyfriend says, “Fuck me, I like that” you may just get the little push you need to go over the edge. Little things said with the sultry, slightly breathless voice of sex and pleasure can really get you both worked up.
5. Toys – One fantasy to try is masturbating while your partner watches and visa versa. You can manually stimulate yourself or use a vibrator such as the Four Play massager Kit with four attachments for clitoral stimulation, while your lover watches from a distance. Seeing you get turned on is a surefire way to get their juices flowing. If your man is masturbating while you watch he may use an accessory such as Senso Lips, a masturbation sleeve that is ribbed inside for more stimulation, and you may just want to take over.

1. RELAX – This is possibly the most difficult part because you are obviously apprehensive about the whole ordeal and even if you think you are relaxing you may still be clenching the sphincter muscles. Especially, when your partner gets into the area you may involuntarily tighten up. Solution: Try getting really worked up through oral sex and having an orgasm from that first. After you orgasm you tend to be calmer and your body is more languid. This might make it easier for you to get started.
2. LUBE! – Lube is very important for anal sex because you are working with an area that was not designed for penetration. If you are not properly lubricated you can damage the area. We stress that you go slowly and use a lot of lube on whatever you are inserting into your anus. Suggestions: Anal Eaze, smells like cherries and will lessen your level of discomfort. Sex Cream w/ Hemp Oil, an extreme lubricant made to prepare you for extreme action.
3. Start Small – This is one area where bigger is not better, at least at first. If you have never had anything enter your anus, start with a finger. During foreplay, you can have your partner run his finger around the area and lightly fondle the opening. This should get you aroused. If it freaks you out, stop. You need to be comfortable to experience any pleasure. If you are turned on, move to the next step of letting him insert one lubed finger, very slowly.
4. Anal Extras – After he has inserted one finger you can work your way up to two or three. It’s a big leap from finger to penis and you want to expand the area slowly. You may want to try an anal toy such as anal beads or a butt plug. Try Pearlessence Anal Beads, they are a string of medium sized balls. Also, try the Medium Pleasure Plug, which is smaller than a penis but larger than two or three fingers. Experiment with these toys during sex as well to enhance pleasure and get an idea of what you like.
5. Clean – You may be worried about a messy mishap during or after the anal sex and that is understandable. However, what’s more important is making sure everything you use is clean. You also need to be careful about switching back and forth between anal and vaginal insertion. Bacteria and infection may result if you do this without thoroughly cleaning each toy, finger, and/or penis before inserting it into your vagina.

Take a Hint!

1. Leaving Notes – This seems to be the numero uno in romantic gestures. It is thoughtful, easy and cheap. Just leave a little note on the bathroom mirror, refrigerator, in their briefcase, etc that says something sweet such as “Have a good day!” or “I can’t wait to see you tonight” or even “Will be Thinking of you today.” This unexpected find can not only brighten their day but remind them that you love them.
2. Surprise Dinner – Instead of picking up takeout on the way home, plan to make their favorite meal and eat it with the TV off! Light candles and set the table with the good china and get a nice bottle of wine. The time you put into it is what makes it special.
3. Send an E-card – There are lots of sites that offer free e-cards and all it takes is a few minutes during your lunch break to pick one, personalize it and send it off. It’s a welcomed interruption to their gazillion junk mail, conference reminder emails and customer emails.
4. Lingerie Fashion Show – You can do it all in one night or for an entire week. Ladies, you can try on lingerie and do a little runway walk or sexy dance. Keep changing outfits while he admires your body in each one. Add some edibles into the mix for a few outfits or special hands on feature. Gentleman: Pick out some lingerie items that you want to see her in and have her model them for you. We want to know what you like!
5. Sexual Adventure – Instead of leaving Hershey kisses in the shape of a heart on the bed, try chocolate body topping. Make it romantic and sexy by taking your time licking it off their body from top to bottom. When you spend time adoring their body you let them know that you truly care about them and their pleasure. That’s ROMANTIC!
6. Don’t Wait – Don’t wait for a special occasion to do something romantic. Its almost expected and therefore loses some of its meaning. You want to surprise them with something small but thoughtful that expresses your love in a different way than usual. Reminders of your feelings for your lover won’t go unappreciated!